As an educator, I always make it a point to let my students know that I am adopted and I always interject and correct whenever I hear children use “adoption” or “adopted” as a derogatory word. You should see the reaction on my students’ faces when I tell them (especially the ones who are adopted or are in foster care). Their eyes light up and it melts my heart because they know they aren’t alone and that I have their backs and understand.
️️ I’m so glad that I get the opportunity to correct students in these instances. It’s important because words can have a lasting effect on others. Even the most well intentioned statements can be internalized negatively. Here are some statements and questions to consider avoiding when talking to an adoptee.